Dear Bitter Butch: question on bi invisibility– one of my favorite questions so far!

The_bisexual_pride_flag_3673713584Dear BB,

I’ve seen a lot of talk about combating bi and femme invisibility lately, which is pretty great. But I’m still struggling with some conflicting feelings. How do I, a bisexual, femme woman in a long-term relationship with a man celebrate who I am without seeming like I’m just trying to join a Special Pony parade?

Read the rest of her question and my answer over at

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Writer, parent, cripple, queer; worker, dancer. City dweller. Bicyclist. I love whiskey, tea, and cussing.