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Dear Arie,

A lot of people in this life figure out who they are without having kids. Most of them do, I’m guessing. I am not one of those people. 12 years ago today, I met you. And I met myself. Thank you for showing me the best person I could be. And the worst person, asContinue reading “Dear Arie,”

Me and Eddie Hamilton are going to be on TEE VEEEEE

GREAT profile of the lovely artist Eddie Hamilton as well as his project with disabled people called The Shadows Project. And I’m in it, too!

Femme Appreciation Day

So, a day or two ago I shared a Tracey Spicer TED talk in which she goes on an on about how much more productive women would be if we weren’t held to ridiculous beauty standards and didn’t spend so much time on them. I made some wry comment about how judging from myself IContinue reading “Femme Appreciation Day”

Pointless anger

Today would have been my cousin Danny’s birthday. I mean, I guess it still is, but he’s not here to enjoy it. Some days when I think about my beloved dead, I feel sad and loving and generous. Today is an angry day. Angry with medical people in his childhood who breezily told his momContinue reading “Pointless anger”

How am I going to survive until December 19

Probably you have no idea that I grew up reading old Little Orphan Annie comics. I LOVED them. I read them over and over. (You should read the old comics. They are a really interesting view of Depression-era America, and a wonderful soap-opera. Daddy Warbucks loses all his money! He goes blind! He punches thisContinue reading “How am I going to survive until December 19”

“Why do you keep hitting yourself with that hammer?”

Because it feels so good when I stop! What this Minnesota winter does to you: I anxiously asked the guy in the market: “will the fish be okay in my trunk for a few hours?” He laughed. “It’s below freezing out!” he said, and I didn’t believe him until I looked it up. I wasContinue reading ““Why do you keep hitting yourself with that hammer?””

THE MINNESOTA BOOK AWARDS NEED TO BE FIXED

by Alan DeNiro This weekend, the finalists for the 26th annual Minnesota Book Awards were released. As with most other years, I wonder if this is going to be a year when the pattern is broken. But it’s not. What is that pattern? There have been only two books of adult fiction nominated over theContinue reading “THE MINNESOTA BOOK AWARDS NEED TO BE FIXED”

This is not in any way to indicate that pants-buying is NOT an emotional minefield, mind you . . .

You guys I am so glad this stock photo woman has found this protective, helpful, and loving stock photo man to help her navigate the emotional minefield of pants-buying.

SUCH an important piece on treating sex workers with respect.

I’m The Duke University Freshman Porn Star And For The First Time I’m Telling The Story In My Words What she is saying here is SO important. The fact that xoJane had to close comments is SO telling. There are a million quotable bits in this but I will restrict myself to two: The mostContinue reading “SUCH an important piece on treating sex workers with respect.”

“Why Won’t You Educate Me About Feminism?”

Originally posted on The Belle Jar:
He doesn’t hate women. Above and beyond everything else, he wants you to know this: he does not hate women. He has two daughters, for god’s sake, and a wife that he adores beyond anything else, and a sister that he texts every day and a mother who is…