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Dad

I try hard every year to make Father’s Day about the father of my children, not my own Dearly Departed. I have had middling success over the years, especially the years right after his death. My dad didn’t even like Father’s Day; he saw it as a Hallmark Holiday. I would call him and wishContinue reading “Dad”

This was eerily similar to my Meyers-Briggs results

I Am A: Chaotic Good Human Rogue (6th Level) Ability Scores: Strength-14 Dexterity-12 Constitution-14 Intelligence-14 Wisdom-17 Charisma-15 Alignment: Chaotic Good A chaotic good character acts as his conscience directs him with little regard for what others expect of him. He makes his own way, but he’s kind and benevolent. He believes in goodness and rightContinue reading “This was eerily similar to my Meyers-Briggs results”

On assuming you know things and being happy and biking

I posted this wonderful article on Facebook last night by The DIY Couturier: 21 Tips to Keep Your Shit Together When You’re Depressed. It was a direct response to one of those interminable articles by happy people on how to be happy just like them (quick sum-up: it’s not luck, stunningly easy access to the upperContinue reading “On assuming you know things and being happy and biking”

On the supposed “death with dignity” movement, and the value of a disabled life

Whenever assisted suicide comes up amongst my friends and family, they are very pro-assisted suicide. I get angry and quiet and don’t have the energy to explain explain explain, which is unusual for me, but this topic is so vast and exhausting and sometimes I think that no one with a disability is in anyContinue reading “On the supposed “death with dignity” movement, and the value of a disabled life”

No mention was made of his most potent weapon: making his enemy laugh so hard that she is utterly helpless to defend herself.

“And his meal has just unsuspectingly walked up to his front door. The Haddayr is larger and stronger, but no match for the more agile Bob. Even though Haddayrs are meat-eaters, more than twice Bobs’ size, and prey on Bobs, he is not going down without a fight. When he grabs on, there is almostContinue reading “No mention was made of his most potent weapon: making his enemy laugh so hard that she is utterly helpless to defend herself.”

Sing each verse as if it were the whole song.

I do not believe that God has a plan for me. I do not believe in fate. I do not believe that I am some kind of special creature the universe is trying to teach a lesson. I think if there is a god she cares about and nurtures my potential as much as sheContinue reading “Sing each verse as if it were the whole song.”