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Dear Bitter Butch: How Do I Deal With My Beyond Difficult Ex?

Dear Bitter Butch, I spent eight terrible years in a relationship with a crazy person. I mean she is certifiably batshit crazy. (I was in a bad place, what can I say?) We’ve been apart for four years now. I have a wonderful new partner who is perfectly sane. I often get threatening texts fromContinue reading “Dear Bitter Butch: How Do I Deal With My Beyond Difficult Ex?”

Local State Rep PEGGY FLANAGAN is first Native woman to speak at the DNC!!!

“Your name is NOT Pocahantas. . . . despite everything that has happened to our people, and no matter what Donald Trump says: WE ARE STILL HERE.” https://www.c-span.org/video/?c4615831/state-representative-peggy-flanagan Oh, Peggy I am so damn proud of you and your writing and your speaking and your hard work for all of us. I am so proudContinue reading “Local State Rep PEGGY FLANAGAN is first Native woman to speak at the DNC!!!”

Dear Bitter Butch: What Can I Do About the Office Skeeve?

Dear Bitter Butch, One of the senior executives at my workplace is a bit of a skeeze in that he showers women at our workplace with ambiguously inappropriate attention. From what I’ve seen, the attention ranges from overly friendly hugs, to hands at the small of the back when opening doors, to fairly frequent officeContinue reading “Dear Bitter Butch: What Can I Do About the Office Skeeve?”

Please help save Trans Lifeline!

DONATE HERE. From their Facebook Page: I need your help to save Trans Lifeline. We applied for grants aggressively this year but were turned down by everyone but the Trans Justice Funding Project and Horizons Foundation. Pride season was pretty much a bust for fundraising and now we are in dire straights. Members of ourContinue reading “Please help save Trans Lifeline!”

Cite your sources, people.

THANK you Pokemon Go

My kid never wants to go for a walk. He ‘hates’ bike riding. Being outside is basically an anathema. Or I should say WAS an anathema. In one week, he’s very close to reaching his 10K distance for evolving. Or hatching. Or . . . I don’t know what. Now he goes for a longContinue reading “THANK you Pokemon Go”

Bitter Butch Needs You!

Dear Darlings, Bitter Butch is in need of more letters! Please send your questions about heartache, parenting, sex, work, disability, queerness, etiquette, or any old damn thing to bitterbutch@bitterempire.com and I will do my best to do it justice! Bitterly, Bitter Butch

Dear Bitter Butch, Can I Correct Misused Idioms at Work?

Dear Bitter Butch, I just got an email from my supervisor that says, in part, “We need to flush out the agenda area with this additional content.” I need guidance. Is it appropriate to point out that the phrase is “flesh out,” not “flush out?” Or should I ask if she wants me to huntContinue reading “Dear Bitter Butch, Can I Correct Misused Idioms at Work?”

This is what it feels like to watch someone speak truth to power.

Chills, hair standing on end. Fighting the urge to rise to my feet in my corporate cubicle. Especially if you are white, you need to hear this. Watch it. Listen. Listen again.

I am not resigned, either. For Naomi.

For my dear darling friend Naomi Kritzer on the horrible occasion of her beautiful, kind, brilliant, thoughtful, and powerful mother’s sudden and unexpected death. Dirge Without Music BY EDNA ST. VINCENT MILLAY I am not resigned to the shutting away of loving hearts in the hard ground. So it is, and so it will be, forContinue reading “I am not resigned, either. For Naomi.”